distraction

There's a lot of things I want to say but I have no courage to. So let's focus on FOOD.

First I shared an order for a box of Utah sweet peaches with some colleagues. Hope I got 桃花运？The good kind please.

They are really sweet. I only have 1/3 of that box for myself but it's a lot. I wanted to share some with my downstairs neigbours but no one answered the door. Too bad.

Sayaka is going to be here tomorrow. I can't wait to pick her up and have some girly time together. She's just here a few hours earlier than her hubby. And then for Friday, we will be going to a very nice steak restaurant Capital Grill at Fashion Show Mall.

Have you heard of Restaurant Week? If you haven't, you should check them out. Last year I went to Fleur de Lys, which typically will cost more than $100 for a person's meal but it cost only $50.11 for that particular week. So this year, I'm going to 3 restaurants during Restaurant Week!!! Not only is this for charity, I get to eat great food at super fancy restaurants for a fraction of the price. This happens in most major cities so go check it out!!!

I'll post pictures once I finish those 3 meals. Last one will happen at Jean Georges Steakhouse next Friday.

on my shoulders

When you reach the demise of a relationship, would you reflect on it or just move on?

I think most of you will probably be like me—spent a significant amount of time running through the whole thing again, in my head, like it's a really long movie with a twisted ending.

Do you even blame yourself for the failure at all?

Be it that the other party lied, cheated or just hurt you for no reason, would you still admit some fault?

Even if you have tried your best, do you think you could have done better?

It's hurtful and exhausting to resent someone forever. Forgiving will feel divine. And I hope to be there soon.

Current Obssession 22

PEPPERED PONY KNUCKLE-BOX CLUTCH $2,095.00
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Tubing

This is the strange man (who I live with) & I at Colorado River 2 weekends ago.

Yes! We planted our ass on the purple tubes and floated down the river for 4 hours :)

current Obssession 21

Korean designer Lily Suh @ Zoono of I3lab (link jammed at the moment) created the 'full moon odyseey' floor mattress. Now wouldn't that be such a great place to take a nap!

(via Black Eiffel via designboom)

When something bad happens,

I'm glad there is always someone/something good around.

Moral of the story: Don't work late all by myself again because when my car battery decided to die prematurely last night, it wasn't funny.

BUT

Happy to have friends who are just a phonecall away to give me a ride.

Happy to know someone with a handy jumpstart-car device.

Happy to find an auto shop with honest and helpful people working there.

Happy to find out the battery is still under warranty.

Happy to not pay a single cent.

Happy to have the same nice gentleman install my new windscreen wipers.

Happy to have streak-less windscreen.

Happy to find out tomorrow will rain before I wash my car.

Happy to be free to drive to the doggy park in the evening.

Happy to chat with dog-loving strangers.

Happy to have no TV that will waste my time.

Happy to go to bed now, but not before playing a little Angry Bird first.

Life goes on

Sparky makes his little spot in my room with an red ikea throw, a lime green wrap that was supposed to cover the printer, two of his buddies and a new teddy bear. Funny thing is I shouldn't have kept the teddy which was gifted from the ex, but I did. And one fine day Sparky walked into my room with teddy in his mouth. Now it's his to vent his frustration on, he loves chewing on teddy's ears. Nom nom nom.


I'm going tubing this Saturday! I'm very happy to be making more meaningful friendships with more people. Well, we never know how people truly are, but we can give it a try. And doing all these fun activities OUTSIDE with nature. It's wonderful just thinking about it. We'll be drinking and chatting, flowing lazily down the Colorado River... ...

一个出轨男人与佛的对话

深夜，寺里一人一佛，佛坐人站。

人：圣明的佛，我是一个已婚之人，我现在狂热地爱上了另一个女人，我真的不知道该怎幺办。

佛：你能确认你现在爱上的这个女人就是你生命里唯一的最后一个女人吗？

人：是的。

佛：你离婚，然后娶她。

人：可是我现在的爱人温柔，善良，贤惠，我这样做是否有一点残忍，有一点不道德。

佛：在婚姻中没有爱才是残忍和不道德的，你现在爱上了别人已不爱她了，你这样做是正确的。

人：可是我爱人很爱我，真的很爱我。

佛：那她就是幸福的。

人：我要与她离婚后另娶她人，她应该是很痛苦的又怎幺会是幸福的呢？

佛：在婚姻里她还拥有她对你的爱，而你在婚姻中已失去对她的爱， 因为你爱上了别人，正谓拥有的就是幸福的，失去的才是痛苦的，所以痛苦的人是你。

人：可是我要和她离婚后另娶她人，应该是她失去了我，她应该才是痛苦的。

佛：你错了，你只是她婚姻中真爱的一个具体，当你这个具体不存在的时候，她的真爱会延续到另一个具体，因为她在婚姻中的真爱从没有失去过。所以她才是幸福的而你才是痛苦的。

人：她说过今生只爱我一个，她不会爱上别人的。

佛：这样的话你也说过吗？

人：我。我。。我。。。

佛：你现在看你面前香炉里的三根蜡烛，那根最亮。

人：我真的不知道，好象都是一样的亮。

佛：这三根蜡烛就好比是三个女人，其中一根就是你现在所爱的那个女人，芸芸众生，女人何止千百万万，你连这三根蜡烛那根最亮都不知道，都不能把你现在爱的人找出来，你为什么又能确定你现在爱的这个女人就是你生命里唯一的最后一个女人呢？

人：我。我。。我。。。

佛：你现在拿一根蜡烛放在你的眼前，用心看看那根最亮

人：当然是眼前的这根最亮。

佛：你现在把它放回原处，再看看那根最亮

人：我真的还是看不出那根最亮。

佛：其实你刚拿的那根蜡烛就是好比是你现在爱的那个最后的女人，所谓爱由心生，当你感觉你爱她时，你用心去看就觉的它最亮，当你把它放回原处，你却找不到最亮的一点感觉，你这种所谓的最后的唯一的爱只是镜花水月，到头来终究是一场空。


人：哦，我懂了，你并不是要我与我的爱人离婚，你是在点化我，

佛：看破不说破，你去吧

人：我现在真的知道我爱的是谁了，她就是我现在的爱人。

佛：阿弥陀佛，阿弥陀佛



你我曾经深爱过的某人，无非也就是芸芸众生中的一个，只是爱由心生，自以为他/她会是今生最爱，当你感觉你爱她，你用心去爱就觉的他/她最珍贵，当万物归原，生命仍然继续，他/她无非也就是我们生命中的一个过客。

我们根本无法确定哪一个才是今生最爱，如果不懂得去珍惜，你身边这个爱你的/你爱的人，在某一天，也会成为你身边的过客。

找一个你爱的人不容易，找一个爱你的人也不容易。如果无法确定哪一个才是你最爱的人，何不在自己成为别人的爱人的时候珍惜这份感情？爱由心生，你告诉自己是爱他/她的，自然就可以爱上他/她。

如果你爱的人不爱你，也请记得：爱由心生。是你太过于把目光集中在他/她身上了，试着放开视线焦点，你会发现光亮的蜡烛到处都有。

爱与不爱，无非也就是在一念之间。

过去的事情过去的爱情，就让它过去吧，那只是我们生命的一部分，只是茫茫大海中的一滴水珠，只是漫漫苍弩中的一粒微尘。没有那些过去，也不会造就现在的你我。

珍惜当前，永远胜于三心二意